Do you think finding your purpose is important? Yes right?

Well without it then every step potentially could be going the wrong way… How costly is that?

Did you know I wandered about for many years before finding my purpose… It took me starting and moving in many different directions – virtually being forced to look at it before I bothered to do it…

How costly to my life do you think that was?

I spent years in the wrong businesses, doing the wrong things, going in the wrong direction before I took time out and just thought about it.

When I eventually stopped it only took me roughly 20 hours to uncover my life’s purpose and now everyday I live it.

It takes no effort, it fills me with energy, I’m in no rush, and I’m just stepping forward each day fulfilling my purpose.

But is it important enough for you to be bothered to look at it yet?

Let’s see how important it is…

“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.”

Napoleon Hill wrote that and I regularly share it with others. As soon as you read it what happens inside your mind is this:

1) You notice it and wake up

2) You conclude without much thought at all – “Yes that’s right I agree”

3) You then go back to sleep and take no further action.

Don’t feel bad, that’s what happens after every quote you agree with… It’s a cunning little boost to our ego;

Side note: The secret to not being put back to sleep by your ego after reading a comment is to remember to ask yourself this one simple question right after you read ANY quote – ‘Am I living to this?’ – Yes, and then check to see if you really are? As if you said ‘Yes’ then you’re probably not… If you felt it then you may well be. If you said ‘No’ then you’re quite present, continue to slow down and consider why not. You don’t want to decide, you just want to observe – here lies great power for you IF you can slow down:

But let’s look at what he meant in his quote, as what he didn’t say in it is – First you must have your purpose, as without it you’ll quit! So don’t bother trying without it as you may well be going the wrong way!

Why do you think so many businesses fail, because people started them because they could, not because they should.

Why do you think so many marriages fail, because people started them because they could not because they should.

I could list more and more things here, but the point is, we all begin things we can do, which are not necessarily the things we should do

The secret to fulfillment in life and so much more is to only do what you should do… And you can only do that, and you can only keep applying effort IF you have your purpose.

Unfortunately to do it and it not be your purpose will end up with pain – trust me I KNOW!

So your purpose isn’t just something you may want to do when you get around to it, your purpose is essential to you living the life you were designed to live…

You cannot fulfill your true potential until you discover your purpose! Until then you are treading water… A Free Mind will make it very pleasant for you to tread water, but if you want to know how far you can go then your discovering your purpose is a must!

Without purpose you are destined to quit someday.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
(757)-810-0208
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

Are you in constant motion, even while sitting still? The question is, do you move forward or backward? The answer is: it depends on which way you look.

Looking backward does have value. You may have heard it said before: You can’t really know where you’re going until you know where you’ve come from.

That is certainly true, looking back helps you know your personal heritage and whether or not you want to revise or extend that legacy.

A look backward can also show you the need to mend a damaged relationship, heal a broken heart, or clear up some unfinished business.

But looking back can also be paralyzing. Some folks are stuck in the past. They stay there because for them, the past is better than the present, or at least, it’s more comfortable, less risky and not as demanding.

While some look backward to review their days of glory, others look at the past to relive mistakes and review missed opportunities.

That kind of constant backward look is truly hurtful. Here’s why: when you dwell on the past too much it clouds your vision of the future and inhibits personal growth.

Your future has two possibilities: it will be decided either by design or by fate. If your future is by design that means it’s up to you.

If it’s by fate it means you’re willing to allow your peers, parents, or worst of all, the government, to run your life. How fun does that sound? I’m sure you know this is true: The future is where you’re going to live so you better look forward and create your vision of your future or someone else will.

Ask yourself:

  • What do I want my future to look like?
  • Then ask, what must I do to make that future happen?

Remember when you first learned to ride a bike? At first you just wanted to sit on it and try to keep it up-right. That didn’t work too well, did it?

You quickly discovered the best way to maintain balance and ride safely was to make it move forward. It’s a lesson for life. You have to make your bike (your life) move forward or you crash.

Your mom or dad can run beside you and hold on for awhile, but eventually they must let go and set you free.

And that’s the way it is right now. I honestly believe that 80% of your life is up to you. Sure your past may have harmed you or it could have been glorious, but it’s not where you are today and tomorrow is where you must live.

Which way are you looking? If you’re spending too much time in the past either reliving your glory or reviewing its shame, change the direction you look.

Don’t look back, look forward.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
(757)-810-0208
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

In the book, The Last Lecture, which has inspired millions, Randy Pausch says, “Time must be explicitly managed just like money.”

No truer statement could be said about your business. To be successful, it’s very simple but yet the plan (your activity) must be explicitly managed.

Here’s the formula for success:

  1. Determine how much time you are going to spend in your business on a daily basis.
  2. Determine how many people you commit to contacting about your business each day.
  3. Then… just do it! Make sure that you do it every day!

Your success rate is in direct proportion to the time you spend working the business. Whatever your goal is… whether its 30 minutes a day or 5 hours a day – the important thing is to do it every day.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here

 


Jerry Scicchitano
(757)-810-0208
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

To be successful and a happy person you must be able to define what you really want. Easier said than done I know that. You must have a dream (a goal) if you expect it to come true. If you don’t have one how can you expect it to come true? You must really do some soul searching and figure out what is important to you that you are willing to pursue to the moon and back. When you find things that are taking you away from your true goal you need the strength to pull away from them and stay on track to pursuing your number one goal.

I hate to say this but don’t let yourself fall into settling if something else comes up that sounds good or may pay you a little more don’t let it sway you. If it is not going to move you forward toward your number one goal. Just Say NO!

Know what you want. If you don’t clarify what it is you desire you may be chasing the wrong dream. You may think it is money you want but when you get it you’re not happy. You may think it is a fancy new sports car but that’s not it either. How about fame your name in lights, or a book author. If you don’t have anyone to share this success with is it really what you thought it would be.

This is why it is so very important to try to figure out:

  • exactly what it is you want
  • and why it is important to you
  • and how it will impact your life once you attain it

Now is the time for you to start making the proper decisions that will enable you to lead a very happy, fulfilling and prosperous life.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano

Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

You are uncertain about what you are going to do next your feeling like you’re fighting an uphill battle. You’re spending most of your day trying to cope with past decisions. You just aren’t a happy person. You probably are ready for a change.

You probably are feeling bad about who you are and what you felt was the right course for you. You know you need a change, but what will everyone think? You aren’t a failure things just didn’t work out the way you planned, (get over it) you learned so much more than you lost.

You are ready to change directions but it is fear that is probably holding you back. You are thinking of all the scary things that may or may not happen to you. Realize most of the concerns you have will never come to fruition. Face up to your decision to move on and in a different direction.

Being indecisive about what you want. – You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be. It’s all about finding and pursuing your passion. Neglecting passion blocks creative flow. When you’re passionate, you’re energized. Likewise, when you lack passion, your energy is low and unproductive. Energy is everything when it comes to being successful. Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.

You must clearly define what you want and get moving.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here

 
Jerry Scicchitano

Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

If you want to Dare To Soar and move on to better things, you have to give up the things that weigh you down – which is not always as obvious and easy as it sounds.

Starting today, give up…

  1. Letting the opinions of others control your life. – People know your name, not your story. They’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through. So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt. In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.
  2. The shame of past failures. – You will fail sometimes, and that’s okay. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. Your past does not equal your future. Just because you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; or for the last sixteen years, doesn’t have any impact on the current moment. All that matters is what you do right now. Read Awaken the Giant Within.
  3. Being indecisive about what you want. – You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be. It’s all about finding and pursuing your passion. Neglecting passion blocks creative flow. When you’re passionate, you’re energized. Likewise, when you lack passion, your energy is low and unproductive. Energy is everything when it comes to being successful. Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.
  4. Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you. – There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. Follow your intuition. Don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. When there is love and inspiration, you can’t go wrong. And whatever it is you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows. Trust me, in a year from now, you will wish you had started today.
  5. Choosing to do nothing. – You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when. You can only decide how you are going to live, right now. Every day is a new chance to choose. Choose to change your perspective. Choose to flip the switch in your mind from negative to positive. Choose to turn on the light and stop fretting about with insecurity and doubt. Choose to do work that you are proud of. Choose to see the best in others, and to show your best to others. Choose to truly LIVE, right now.
  6. Your need to be right. – If you keep on saying you’re right, even if you are right now, eventually you will be wrong. Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong. Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  7. Running from problems that should be fixed. – We make life harder than it has to be. The difficulties started when… conversations became texting, feelings became subliminal, sex became a game, the word ‘love’ fell out of context, trust faded as honesty waned, insecurities became a way of living, jealously became a habit, being hurt started to feel natural, and running away from it all became our solution. Stop running! Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve it.
  8. Making excuses rather than decisions. – Life is a continuous exercise in creative problem solving. A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it. Thus, most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.
  9. Overlooking the positive points in your life. – What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for. Do your best and surrender the rest. When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have. You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.
  10. Not appreciating the present moment. – We do not remember days, we remember moments. Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things. Live authentically and cherish each precious moment of your journey. Because when you finally arrive at your desired destination, I guarantee you, another journey will begin. (Marc & Angel Chernoff)

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

To have a reason to get up in the morning, it is necessary to possess a guiding principle.

  • A belief of some kind.
  • A bumper sticker if you will.

I feel there’s no better time to believe in the prospect of possibilities, of dreams coming true, than at the moment you open your eyes.

Here are some reasons to get out of bed. Did we cover it all? Let us know the number one reason YOU wake up in the morning in the comments section below.

  1. A chance to see the sun rise! 
  2. To wrap my arms around my amazing children!
  3. Because I am alive and there is something new to be explored, learned, observed in the day to start.
  4. Carpe diem — seize the day! Even if you’re not a morning person every day is a gift.
  5. Because I still can and I know that some day in the not too distant future, I won’t be able to anymore. Got to live the life I have while I have it.

       6. To see what happens today!

        7. To see what this glorious day will bring!

        8. I love the challenge and the battle the day throws at me.

        9. To begin a new day with positivity.

        10. To kiss my husband!

          11. Love of life!

 Did these 11 statements cover it all?

Let me know the number one reason YOU wake up in the morning.

Count your blessings – If you count the sunny and the cloudy days of the whole year, you will find that the sunshine predominates.

Here’s To Your Success,

 Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

 P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

I was watching the show “What would you do” the other night. During this show the actors were in a casino and had other patrons sitting beside them at the bar. One of the actors found a wallet and leaned over to a couple in particular.

They were an unassuming couple a man and a woman in their mid to late twenties. The actor pulled out a wallet and proceeded in trying to convince them to keep the money and wallet. A few minutes passed and a gentleman came walking up and asked the bartender if anyone had found the wallet.

The other actors looked at the couple and asked them to “keep it quiet”. They would split the money with them. Upon this the gentleman took the wallet and quickly handed to the man looking for his wallet.

John Kinounus walked out immediately after this and asked why did you do this? He explained he had to; it was the right thing to do.

Integrity what a small word that has so much impact in the world we live in together. Where does it come from? Is it something that others determine? Is it something that is individual to the person? Why is it so important?

The dictionary describes integrity as possession of firm principles: the quality of possessing and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles or professional standards.

It is in fact integrity that makes a society function and is an internal process. Integrity and moral codes are an internal process and you must determine what this moral code means to you.

We may think that it is not important to speak up when we feel something is wrong or just ignore it and go on with our lives it can have an impact. The truth is invariably our decision is integral to the creation of our true selves.

We will eventually need to answer to ourselves and if we do not live life with the integrity of self it can have a negative impact on our physics. Doing “the right thing” may seem difficult at the time that a situation or moral dilemma occurs but the reality is that when we step out beyond our comfort zone and do the right thing everyone benefits including ourselves.

During this episode of “What would you do” many others were tested and some decided to ignore the situation and when asked why many responded that it was just easier but they had remorse when looking back.

The reality of this is it may be easier at that moment but the repercussions will eventually influence your own ability to look within yourself with integrity. Integrity and “doing the right thing” is important to trusting yourself and where you are in society.

This is not to say that you should follow someone else’s moral code but that you should look within and follow your own moral code. Living life with integrity in the end builds self-esteem and the ability to believe in you.

So the next time you are faced with a moral dilemma step out and look at this and “do the right thing”. Living with integrity can be a super booster to your self-esteem and your inner confidence and the bottom line of your business.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

Blog # 329

Reinventing Your Identity

The evolution of your identity is how everyone perceives you, it is built upon everything that can be referenced what you did, how you felt – were you wimpy or aggressive, active or passive, intelligent or average, daring or laidback?

You can always decide to redefine yourself. Think of the wondrous imagination that suffuses the heart and soul of every child. One day they are a professional basketball player. The next day an Olympic athlete winning the gold medal, and today, he’s Grandpa, his own real-life hero. Identity shifts can be among the most joyous, magical and liberating experiences of life.

Why do adults look forward Halloween or to New Orleans’s Mardi Gras? One reason, I’m sure, is these celebrations give us permission to step outside ourselves and assume an alter ego. We may do things in these new identities that we wouldn’t normally do; we may do things we want to do all the time but see as inconsistent with our identities. The reality is that we could do this any day of the year! We could completely redefine ourselves, or we could simply decide to let our “real selves” shine through.

Sometimes you may feel your identity isn’t everything you want it to be, it could be holding you back in your business dealings, your love life, your family life, you have the control to make it any way you so desire.

Let’s start this change by taking the following four steps to reinvent yourself:

  1. Make a list of all the elements of your identity you want to have.

Look at some of the people who have these characteristics you aspire to have. Can they serve as role models? Now imagine yourself with these new characteristics. How would you walk, talk, think etc.?

 

  1. If you’d truly like to expand your identity and your life, then right now, consciously decide who you want to be. Get excited, be like a kid again, and describe in detail who you’ve decided you are today. Write your description down now since it is fresh in your head.

 

        3 Now you must develop your plan of action you are going to take so you will find yourself living your new identity. When developing your plan consider who your      friends  are will they reinforce or destroy this new identity you’re creating?

         4.  The final step is to commit to your new identity by sharing it with everyone around you.

 Now you are on your way you have a better idea who you are. You must continue to refine your identity, expend it remember we are living in a dynamic world where our identities must continually expand in order to enjoy a greater quality of life.

You need to become aware of the things that may influence your identity, notice whether they are empowering or disempowering you, and take control of the whole process. Otherwise you become a prisoner of your own past.

I am curious: Are you now the same person you were when you started to read a few posts ago?

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano

Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

You And Your Identity

Looking back at the last post I hope you took some time to relax and put yourself in that safe and curious state. And found some answers to that question that people have been asking themselves for many years “Who am I?”

To assist you in defining yourself, remember that identity is simply what distinguishes you from everyone else. I would like to share a couple of exercises I feel you will enjoy and benefit from.

  1. If you were to do a Google search under your name, what would it say? Would three words just about cover it, or would your epic narrative consume page after page?

Right now, write down the definition you would find if you were to Google your name. Title it “My Google Definition” Take a moment, and let your answers sink in. When you’re ready, move to the next exercise.

  1. If you were to create an ID card that would represent who you truly are, what would be on it – and what would you leave off?
  • Would it include a picture or not?
  • Would you list your vital statistics?
  • Your physical description?
  • Your accomplishments?
  • Your emotions?
  • Your beliefs?
  • Your affiliations?
  • Your aspirations?
  • Your motto?
  • Your abilities?

Take a moment to describe what would be on this identity card and what would be left off in order to show someone who you really are.

Now, take a look at what you’ve written down, at the descriptions you have of your identity – in essence, the story of your life. How do you feel about it? I hope you’re taking a moment right now to really appreciate who you are, to feel the deep emotion that comes with recognition. If you’re noticing that your identity creates pain, know that whatever you call your identity is simply what you’ve decided to identify with, and that in a moment you could change it all. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOU RIGHT NOW. In fact, after looking at how identities evolve, you’ll have an opportunity to expand your identity, and therefore your entire life.

In tomorrow’s post we will explore the evolution of an identity, and changing your identity.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.